Asked

Jan 19 2010

Female

My husband and I met online. We still email one another daily. Sometimes we email issues that we haven't discussed in person, or that are emotionally charged somehow, and then misunderstand and end up fighting about it. I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever had this problem, and if so, what did you do to help with it?

anonymous post in Married

Answered

Feb 2 2010

Yes, I had similar problem not with my husband but with my boy friend. I find it easier to converse through e-mail. Few things I am more comfortable discussing though email, than personally or over phone. So, sometimes, I go out of control, write things which I dont really intend to and also, as i am not able to see the other persons reaction over what I am writing, I get comfy and keep on writing things which could hurt the reader's feelings.
I dont know if its the same thing with your case, but i feel, when you write something or discuss something, keep your husbands feelings and his reaction to the situation in mind, this will avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and will help in providing more healthier relationship.

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