Asked

Feb 3 2010

Female

I met this guy at a party through some mutual friends about 2 weeks back. He seemed really cute so we got talking and now we're seeing each other. Trouble is, I've often caught him chatting up other girls...Or flirting a bit with some of his female friends. I did confront him about this and he asked me to take it easy. He assures me that it's just a little harmless flirting and that it doesn't add up to anything. Is he telling me the truth? Does he really love me? Or is he just fooling me around and two-timing me? How do I know?

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Answered

Feb 19 2010

Hi,
Thanks for posting for query.
Well referring to your case it would be have been really helpful if you had mentioned your age. However, if you are still studying I suggest you reconsider your thoughts about getting into any affair or relationships. The reason being that it is easy to say that you fall in love or your instantly like a guy but it is difficult, time consuming and extremely tedious to carry on with and fulfill the relationship.
In case you are working and you want to get serious about this guy, just make sure that you get to him properly first since its been hardly 2 weeks since you have met him. Communicate with him and understand his likes and dislikes. Only when you feel you are comfortable with him and you get an idea that his character cannot be questioned, think about a step further.
Flirting may or may not be harmless. It depends completely on the way the guy does it. So,do not jump to any conclusions about geting serious with him. Spend a good amount of time talking to him and knowing him better. You will then be surprised to realize how things becomes clear to you.

Take care n Good Luck!

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