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May 20 2009
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I started seeing a girl who was fresh out of a long-term relationship. I have been interested in her for a long time and when I heard she broke up with her boyfriend I pounced. She is a sweetheart, and she told me she is on the rebound and she is not interested in jumping into a new relationship. However, she is always willing to have sex with me and she is awesome in bed. I think I've fallen for her and now she barely gives me the time of day. Should I continue being her booty call?
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Apr 20 2010
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These situations are never black and white.
You simply have to consider what you want out of the situation. If she is straight up telling you she doesn't want a relationship - she doesn't want a relationship. Unless you're willing to settle for just sex (and the possibility of no further relationship in the future) you should move on.
If you're happy to keep it physical, so be it; just take into consideration that when one person's feelings are stronger there is the potential that someone's going to get hurt.
You simply have to consider what you want out of the situation. If she is straight up telling you she doesn't want a relationship - she doesn't want a relationship. Unless you're willing to settle for just sex (and the possibility of no further relationship in the future) you should move on.
If you're happy to keep it physical, so be it; just take into consideration that when one person's feelings are stronger there is the potential that someone's going to get hurt.
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Although the girl you're seeing has been upfront and clear about what she wants from you and what she is capable of giving in this relationship, it is a given that you truly care for her and because of how you feel for her, eventually, you would want something more from this relationship.
Ask yourself if you are willing to wait for her to overcome and get through the rebound phase and can give her the space she needs, but don't forget to address your own feelings. If you are getting hurt in this situation, it would be up to you do decide if being in this relationship is really worth it.
Ask yourself if you are willing to wait for her to overcome and get through the rebound phase and can give her the space she needs, but don't forget to address your own feelings. If you are getting hurt in this situation, it would be up to you do decide if being in this relationship is really worth it.
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In all fairness, she was honest with you about her inability to start a new relationship. Coming out of a long-term one is tough for females. We may like the attention someone else gives us right after the fact, but another relationship is hard and suffocating in a way. It sounds like she's enjoying the attention but just can't do a relationship and if she knows you have stronger feelings, she's probably uncomfortable and creating some distance. I know it's hard because you care for her, but the best thing to do is give her some space. Be a friend if she needs one but otherwise let her recuperate and come to you if and when she's ready.
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