Asked

May 21 2009

Female

My ex is very close to my brother and she is constantly using him to find out about my love life. It's causing a problem in my relationship with my brother and I am afraid it will get out of hand and cause permanent damage. I have asked him to stop enabling her but he is too soft-hearted. Can I file a restraining order on my brother's behalf? Or, is there any legal recourse I have to deal directly with her?

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Answered

Jun 3 2009

My advice to you is if your brother will not stop enabling her, show her yourself how good your relationship is. That way she will not have to go to your brother. Sometimes you and your significant other may have to just show up coincidently to where she hangs out so she can see for herself. If this doesn't work, or perhaps you can kill two birds in one stone...instead of asking your brother to stop enabling her, simply ask her to stop asking your brother about your love life.

You can be nice about approaching her with this and if it continues I would seek legal advice, especially if it's causing any type of interference in your life, love life, etc. Good luck and I hope you get your issue resolved.

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