Report Abuse
Report Abuse
Please click on the appropriate issue
Close this window
It is hard to distinguish independence from a lack of interest sometimes. I would start with something smaller than a nice gift or fancy meal and move up from there - pick her up a drink or an ice cream cone on your way to see her on a hot day, for instance. If she argues, just say you wanted to do something nice for her. Some women are put off by bigger financial gestures thinking men are trying to buy them. Others feel guilty when others do things for them, perhaps stemming from other issues.
I was like this for a long time because my mom was a stay at home and my dad grew to resent her for it. I decided to be independent so that the same would not happen to me, but ultimately had to learn balance and that even though it hurts my pride to accept a gift, i could hurt a giver's pride by not accepting it.
It's hard to say if it's lack of interest or only independence, so just start off small and assure her that you're doing so because you want to and you care about her.
[reply to answer]