Asked

Jun 21 2009

Female

There's a guy I have been friends with for many years now, and we're pretty close. He's called me his sister and I call him my brother, because we get on so well, we share so many similar interests, and we do everything together. The thing is lately I've discovered a bit of a crush on him. For a few months now actually. We still have fun, this isn't totally taking over, but it's starting to become apparent now. He tells me about his crushes and everything normal friends can do, but it's starting to bother me. I think that because of our 'sibling' like relationship, it's actually stopping us from anything more. But what's even weirder is that he might like me back, or at least that's what it seems like at some points. If that's true, is he trying to test me to see what I'll say about the other girls? Or if it isn't, should I tell him what I feel, or just not risk breaking up what we already have?

by aurorasilverlight in Just Friends

Answered

Sep 3 2009

I was first going to say that you need to do what your heart tells you and tell him how you feel. However, after I gave it a second thought, I realized that if for some reason he is not feeling the same way - you could potentially ruin a good friendship. Therefore, I would turn the game on him. Casually, you can drop hints that you are hanging out with a different guy one night that you recently met out somewhere(someone he does not even know exists). If he likes you, you should almost be guaranteed a reaction. There's your answer!

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Answered

Jun 21 2009

He could be trying to test you. I think that you need to tell him or at least hint at you liking him. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, you should just kiss him the next time he is acting like he likes you back. I've found that being aggressive is sometimes the best way to get what you want. If he isn't a guy that would respond to that maybe just plan a bit more of a romantic night for the two of you and see how he acts and tell him after that. I think that there has to be some interest in you if you have been "friends" for so long. It's hard to keep guy friends around for a long time if there isn't some other motivation or reason they are there. Good luck.

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