Asked

Jun 22 2009

Female

I love the little lady I'm seeing; she's beautiful, kind, sexy -to a certain extent, and didn't make me wait too long to get her into bed. My problem is, once we got there, she turned into dead fish. At first it made me really excited because I thought she was really letting me take the lead and "have my way," but now that we've been together a few times, I feel like she is in some sort of disconnect. I think it's weird and it doesn't turn me on. What can I do to wake her up?

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Answered

Jul 16 2009

She may be extremely shy or maybe she has had some bad experiences previously and it's hard for her to loosen up and trust another person in bed.
Some women like that will respond to affection and gentleness in bed more than to wild and kinky stuff (they need to get very comfortable before they are able to do the wild stuff). Some respond to talking, gentle encouragement like "I'd love it if you were on top" things like that.
Otherwise you could just ask her when you're not having sex, ask whether she's uncomfortable or if there's some other reason she's not very active in the sack. Some women actually DO respond to a man who wants to know.

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Answered

Jun 28 2009

break up with her. she will never tell you whats wrong. She will tell her friends and tell her mom but like some women who expect fireworks,They will never tell you. Or ASK HER whats wrong. If you get the run of the mill response like "I,m just tired" or I have alot on my mind, she may not be worth the time.

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