Asked

Jun 22 2009

Female

I am a sophomore in college and I'm having a great time. Recently at a party, this kinda less than gorgeous chick struck up a conversation with me and at first I was embarrassed because there were a lot of hotter girls there, but, while we were talking, she motioned to the back hallway, i was a little drunk so I followed and all of a sudden she opens a closet pulls me in and gives me the best blow job ever. We've seen each other a couple of times since then and she's actually pretty nice, but still, not that pretty. The pretty part is starting to matter less to me, but I get self conscious around my friends. Should I stop messing with her cause I'm so shallow? Should I tell my friends to shut the hell up? It turns out she's really nice and I guess I like her.

anonymous post in Dating Scene

Answered

Jun 29 2009

Looks are overrated. It's part of attraction, but if you notice it starting to matter less, then go for what you like! It's understandable to be a bit self-conscious, but it's important to think about you and what you like. Take a while to think about what this girl means to you, and whether her looks make enough of a difference to factor in a final decision about what you do. Your friends are important, but if you like this girl for more than her looks, then you've got your head on straight. Love doesn't always mean everything with sync perfectly with the girl/guy and everyone you know, but that's part of the fun. If you think it's the right choice, make it for you, not for what image you will attain from other people's opinions.

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