Asked

Jun 22 2009

Female

Love sucks. At least that's what I think when I take a girl out to eat a few times and she all of a sudden declares her love for me. How can they possibly know? It's true, I don't wait until the second date if the girl wants to do it, but that can't be why they say they love me, is it? It's not that I don't want to be loved, but just not so seriously right now. How do you come back from that? or how do you avoid it? Thanks

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Answered

Jul 5 2009

If every woman releases a hormone that makes them fall in love when they have sex, my life would be completely different right now. How old are the women you date? It may be a matter of maturity. Waiting to have sex is a good idea, but not necessary if the other person is consenting and willing, if not completely eager. Just be careful. You can often tell how a woman is going to react to sex by the way she behaves when socializing. I can spot a clingy person from a mile away. Just vet, my friend. Vet.

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Answered

Jul 1 2009

"t's true, I don't wait until the second date if the girl wants to do it"

So you have sex with them the first night I'm assuming.. When women have sex, they release a hormone called oxytocin which makes them feel closer and "love" the person they did the deed with. So if you want them to have not-so-strong feelings for you right away, I recommend keeping in your pants for at least a month (preferably two).

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