Asked

Jun 22 2009

Female

Hi all! I'm new to this, so I'm just going to put it out there. I am recently divorced and I am lonely and excited to meet new people; especially you guys! But my question is have the old rules for dating changed? Is it all on the computer or is there another way to meet people? Is it as dangerous as the news reports say? A little help would be appreciated. Thanks!

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Answered

Jul 5 2009

Of course dating is dangerous, but its usually only your pride and your heart that gets hurt. The principles of dating are still the same. Its like shoe shopping; try people on until you find one that fits. When you find one that fits, wear it for a while until you see if they break in comfortably or not.

Computer dating is not the only way, but its much less taboo than it used to be. You can still find/meet people the old fashioned way, too. Just don't be afraid to get yourself out there and see what comes of it. Be prepared for a few blunders - we all have them.

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Answered

Jul 2 2009

There is something to be said for the online thing, as long as you are not looking for a love interest. I use the internet to get into events and meet people that I can eventually hang out with in real space and time. Then, when I meet people in a social setting (book club, softball, etc) I can get to know them and others through them. Maybe I find a book club online, show up, and a club member sets me up with her sister. So the point of the internet is to get the ball rolling; it shouldn't be the end-all be-all for romance.

Good luck.

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Answered

Jun 29 2009

I don't believe people have switched, there are simply more avenues of communication open to you these days. Some people meet on dating sites, some over social networking sites, some by chance in a chat room, but some people still prefer meeting by chance in a restaurant or getting together in person at a friendly get-together. The internet is new, but that doesn't mean it's the only way anymore.

As for danger, it depends solely on the user. People need to be cautious and use common sense, and that's all that's required. Don't meet anyone in a dark alley, have someone with you when you meet for the first time, make sure you're meeting in a familiar area, don't jump to meet someone you just met, etc. Be cautious, not paranoid, and exercise common sense. If you take care, then you have nothing to worry about. The media tends to exaggerate danger and events about the scary online world. Don't worry too much, and have some fun whatever way you think is best for you!

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