Asked

Jul 2 2009

Female

I have been dating this guy for 4 months. We just had sex for the first time. I asked if we could take this to the next level and call us "boyfriend/girlfriend" and he told me that we won't work out in the long run no matter how attracted we are to each other right now. So I told him that I don't want to talk to him and I felt so used. He has tried to call me/text me at least once a day since this happened. What should I do? Do I talk to him or just keep ignoring him?

by Amanda517 in Dating Scene

Answered

Jul 5 2009

You should respond to his texts, and one of the first things you should say when you speak again (face to face, preferrably) is that you feel a used and you need to define your relationship. Once he has done that, you can more forward as a couple or move forward as a single individual. There is no reason you should ever put up with anyone using you for sex if they can't handle it like an adult.

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Answered

Jul 3 2009

Did he say why he doesn't think it will work out? That is an odd thing to say after 4 months of sexless dating (which seems to mean he was really into YOU).
He sounds like there's something weird going on with him. Honestly, I would respond to his texts saying that you are confused by him. Talk to him.
That being said, please realize that there are guys out there who would treat you like gold and never say what he said. Keep that in mind.

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Making choices can be hard, but they can also be fun. Especially when you have the chance to choose between two different partners who both want you. But when one is a happy, traditional small town girl and the other is an angsty, coed partying in the big city the clichés can be overwhelming.

If both made you equally happy and the chemistry is all there, who would you choose?