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Oct 18 2009

Female

Im having trouble with trusting my girlfriend with my friends. It's not that shes flirting with them openly, its just she comes off as too open, and I dont want others to get the wrong impression. I dont want to control her, for I know her intentions are clear. But I need to break this to her nicely.

I just dont know how?

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Nov 8 2009

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Oct 20 2009

You don't trust your friends but you seem to trust your girlfriend when you say that you know her intentions are clear. If that is how things are then you should honestly tell her that you trust her but that maybe your friends might interpret her personality the wrong way. Tell her that you just wanted her to be aware of it and that's it.

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Oct 18 2009

Wow. I went through the same thing with a girl I ended up marrying. I didn't want to stifle her personality, but everything made me feel uncomfortable.

Have you spoken to her about this? If so, and she still behaves this way, please reconsider the relationship. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who makes you feel good, and doesn't show the affection she should be giving you to others she is not dating.

Also, it makes your friends--and strangers--reluctant to take your relationship seriously. That is never good.

There are women out there who will treat you like you deserve to be treated. I don't want to demonize your girlfriend, but maybe she needs someone who doesn't care about her all that much. It seems like she doesn't know what it means to be in a relationship, and maybe she needs to learn on her own.

I'm sorry. Good luck and let us know how you're doing.

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I've been married 15 years to the same woman and although I cannot always say I have been the best husband, our main problem is her overwhelming jealousy. I work hard and long and she still thinks I'm having affairs. I don't have the time or the energy. We have 4 children whom we both love but they have witnessed terrible fighting and arguing and I don't know what to do. I'm exhausted.