Asked

Dec 22 2009

Female

I have known a guy from my school for a while, but two weeks ago, he started talking to me through text messages. Last Friday, I called him and asked him to meet me for a drink. He did and then he came back to my apartment and we watched a movie. Then we kissed... Before he left, he said that we should hang out again.
I want to call him again, but I dont want to ruin this. I guess I'm not even sure of his intentions. What should my next step be? We have texted since and he said he wants to see me, so i asked him to come over but he said he couldn't that day. Does that mean he doesn't? I shouldn't be so paranoid.

by Amanda517 in Just Friends

Answered

Jan 7 2010

Go ahead and call him! He assured you that he wants to see you again, and its entirely possible it IS true he was busy that day. Did you ask him why? It wouldn't have neccesarily been tacky if you asked him why, had you put it in a teasing, half-hearted way, which is easier to do by text than in person!

Its also possible he has changed his mind, but your next phone call should make it clear. I'd say if he refuses again, come out and ask him why and if he sounds like he's making excuses, come out and ask him point blank. Sure, you don't want to push things, but at the same time, you don't want to waste your time if he's truly not interested.

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Answered

Dec 22 2009

First things first --- when you guys "kissed" can you be more descriptive? In other words, did you quickly smooch...did you make out for 5 minutes...10 minutes...longer? Were you groping each other? Did it come close to going further? It's difficult to gauge the level of passion and intensity from a kiss. More details are necessary. That said, I would definitely agree with the other answer posted - you need to sit back and let him make the next move. Sad to say, we live in a gender oriented world. There are certain things that may seem cliche, but still can't be avoided. One of these is that men should play the dominant role in a relationship and should be responsible for making most of the moves. If you don't hear from him within the next two weeks, then perhaps you send him one more text. But, my true suggestion would be to chill, and play a little "hard to get." You look cute from your picture so I'm sure he digs you. Good luck!

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Answered

Dec 22 2009

Don't be paranoid.

Give him about a week. The fact that he mentioned he wants to see you again is a good thing. Because you last asked him if he wants to hang out it is now on him. Wait patiently.

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