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It's hard finding a guy. That's why I think playing the field by deduction can simplify things. If we get rid of the one's we should not be interested in, we can have an easier time finding the ones that are worth our time. Some "ineligible" bachelors are obvious; stay away from married guys, alcoholics, convicts, psychopaths, etc. However, other no-goes are less obvious. Below are five we typically find ourselves wasting time with.
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  • He's self-absorbed
    This person can be an interesting acquaintance but not a boyfriend. He's all about himself. Are you really going to do a dance in front of him for the rest of your relationship to take his attention off of himself. That's a dumb question, because I know some of you actually are. I've seen guys with extreme narcissistic personality disorder get fawned over by women as if each woman had to prove to herself that she was the one that could make him see the light, or whatever. As cool as they guy may be, walk away. He's not boyfriend material.
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  • He's unconcerned with others' opinions
    Unlike the self-absorbed narcissist that may be concerned with how others are interpreting him or some aspect of himself (his work, his possessions, etc), a person who is completely unconcerned with other people's opinions does his own thing with little possibility of persuasion. This is dangerous because you want your boyfriend to care about what you think. You want him to consider your thoughts and ideas to the point where he can synthesize his experiences you're yours in a meaningful and refreshing way. If he dresses or eats publicly in ways that are, well, unfortunate, you want to know that there is a least a possibility of revising these habits to be more socially acceptable and less embarrassing. As cool and sexy as "the-guy-who-doesn't-give-a-damn" may seem, he is not the idea S.O. He is a possible model for self-reliance, not a boyfriend.
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  • He's into his work
    Everyone loves the guy who comes home wearing that power suit, talking about how there's something going on at the office that he's going to take care of because he's competent enough to do it. It is very hot. However, when he's so competitive at his job that he treats you as an afterthought, "something to do in between projects, "he may not be your best option. This guy will benefit your life in a lot of ways (material possessions, social circles, prestige) but he won't benefit your love life as much as you may need. Commend him on his work ethic and walk away; he's not a boyfriend.
  • 4
  • Nothing seems to impress him
    Okay, there is something kind of hot about the silent type. There's something sexy about the even-keeled guy who never gets worked up and always handles things smoothly. However, you don't want to get a rise out of him, sometimes (not just a rise in his Levis. If you can't pull that off, he's DEFINITELY not for you. If you tell an exciting story, or are extremely happy about something that happened to you, and all he can do is shrug and say, with no facial expression, "That's nice, dear," you don't want to spend much time with him. I probably didn't have to tell you this one, since you'd probably be bored into ending the relationship, anyway. He may be a nice guy, but he's not a boyfriend.
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  • He acts like he's not into you
    This is the simplest and most well-known sign that a guy isn't boyfriend material. There's even a movie about it! This is a testament to Ockham's Razor: the simplest explanation is usually the right one. If he's acting like he's not interested, it's probably because he's not interested.

    Well, there you have it. This is by no means an exhaustive list, but these are common time-wasters that have sucked the worthwhile from the best of us. Heed my warning, and happy dating.
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